What is the Desire Map?
A guide to creating goals with soul.
- Your bucket list.
- Quarterly objectives.
- Strategic Plans. Big Dreams.
Lots of goals and plans to achieve those goals – no matter what. Except
You’re not chasing the goal itself, you’re actually chasing the feeling that achieving that goal will give you.
HOW CAN THE DESIRE MAP HELP YOU?
I’m Danielle and I am passionate about working with people who feel stuck in their lives because I spent the majority of my life stuck in a paralyzing shame cycle! As a child I was ashamed of how poor we were compared to the other children, ashamed that my father didn’t want a relationship with me, that my family wasn’t better educated, ashamed of the way that I looked, ashamed that I was being sexually abused at home, and ashamed of not having the type of family support I considered normal and necessary to be successful in life. I was so riddled with shame and guilt that it made it nearly impossible for me to discuss my childhood or familial relationships with my peers. I feared to have to answer questions about my family and would often just make up stories to avoid what I always assumed would be an uncomfortable and identity damaging conversation.
DESIRE LEADS THE WAY HOME.
Facades, armor and boundaries proved to be ineffective in keeping me safe from the cruel, judgemental world of my imagination where no one liked me. Eventually, I was forced to look in the mirror and acknowledge all of the shameful stories I was harboring that made it impossible for me to even like myself.
Every horrible thought I feared others would think of me, were actually just the things I truthfully were thinking about myself. The time came for me to take ownership of my own thoughts about myself and stop projecting my beliefs onto other people.
My Core Desired Feelings
"Not until we are lost, do we begin to know ourselves". - Henry David Thoreaux
My Desire Map Journey
Knowing how you actually want to feel is the most potent form of clarity that you can have. Generating those feelings is the most powerfully creative thing you can do with your life.
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Hear from previous clients
I love Danielle! She is a wonderful facilitator: Loving, connected, and attentive. As a facilitator and as a person, Danielle is just delightful. I love doing the Work with her! I love the way she holds the space for me and guides me gently when I need it. I feel very comfortable and free and fully trust her.
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